its fixed, kinda feel dumb though :)
I was looking at the PDC (thats the fuse box underhood) and like I said before there was no power to the fuel pump relay. I did read that after 2-3 seconds of the engine being on the fuel pump relay would power down unless the jeep is running. So i double checked that it had no power by setting up my vid camera and recording the tester while I checked. Still no power
So I was looking through my FSM and trying to understand the wiring diagrams and the circuit for the fuel pump.
I ended up replacing the fuel pump 20a fuse, not the relay again and it started right up.
lesson learned from this was triple check everything. I know I checked those fuses and relays at least 2x and they were good, I know I swapped them around with other fuses and relays to test too
Maybe the other parts we replaced had something to do with it, maybe not
Either way I ended up doing about $400 worth of preventitive maintenance on the jeep and learned alot along the way
and now it runs
Who wants to go wheeling?